Today at church (like most 5th Sundays) we had a combined Relief Society and Priesthood class. And the majority of the time it was over dating. Dating, dating, dating, it seems like that is such a big focus here at BYUI haha. But I did enjoy the lesson. Something that stood out to me were two specific things. One date those with your same standards and the second is have confidence in your dating ability.
Dating someone with your same standards seem so obvious but that doesn't mean that this is always the norm. I always try to live the gospel standards as best as I can. I go to the temple often. I do not watch or participate in inappropriate media. I do not cheat. By listing these attributes of me I seek not to brag but rather describe important characteristics that I desire in a future wife that is not prevelant in every single Latter-Day Saint woman (or man for that matter).
The second is have confidence in your dating ability. Understand who you are and what your potential is (including the promises given in the temple if we are true and faithful to our covenants). I remember being a recently returned LDS missionary and talking to my best friend Brian Thompson. Part of me was feeling worthless for not being able to find a job and not going to school and being released from such a sacred and worthwhile calling. I told him how I wanted to date some girls and I would be willing to date almost anyone (LDS). But he told something to me that I needed that I needed to hear. He said "Don't sell yourself short man, you are a good guy, you will find yourself an awesome girl". Whethe rhe knows it or not I truly believe those kind words were directed by the spirit.
I think how lucky and blessed I am to be dating someone with my same standards. Someone that is beautiful and awesome. I don't know yet if she will be the woman I marry but I do know that this experience has been a great for me. I have learned more about how to put someone else's needs before mine and how to treat someone with respect on more than just a superficial level.
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