A discussion, a discussion and yet another discussion

A discussion: Where two people have a conversation on a topic often with varying view points.  This week Carla and I talked a lot about topic that we both knew would come up eventually and that is our future.  After dating for about two months we have both strong romantic feeling towards one another.  However fun this has been we know that there also comes responsibility along with it.  When this responsibility is to be enforced is based on the digression of the two in the party.  After this semester Carla will have one more semester of undergraduate studies at BYUI before she continues her  schooling.  She is currently on the winter-spring track which poses the question what is going to happen over the summer and the fall.  There are many questions to be considered based off the topics of financial, romantic, and eternal and their outcomes.  Last Sunday we prayed and fasted and the one thing I felt is don't wait till Christmas time.  Now I am not sure it that means don't do long distance for 4.5 months and wait till get married then or don't get married at Christmas times period (even if she decides to come for the fall semester).  Lately the conversation has been going along the lines of me "I love you", Carla "I love you."  Me: "I don't want you to go" She "I don't want to go either but I need to work."  I then list off many reasons of how she can be stable financially here (You can work over the 7 week summer break, I can pay for you, etc. etc.)  We finally admit that its not the money that's the issue but how she misses her mom.  I then tell her about the 7 week break and then goes back to that she needs the money.  All I know is I want her to stay and right now she putting up a 100 reasons of why she wants to leave.  I just don't know what to do.  Because I don't have a good feeling of doing dating in person for 4.5 months and then her leaving and us doing long distance for 4.5 months and then getting married.  I don't really want to wait till after the Winter semester in April time that also doesn't seem logical.  No one told me that these big decisions would have to be so hard.  I feel like she has a decision to pick me or her mom (I honestly don't think money is the issue even if she says it is).  She doesn't want me to compare it that scenario but I really feel like that's the situation presented to her.  I know this past week I have the opportunity to learn how to express my feelings and thoughts respectfully while also learning how to say "I am done talking about this tonight".

Well I want to wish all moms out there a happy Mother's Day especially mine.  The more I learn the divine role the mother has the more I appreciate mine.